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If however you failed to reach forgiveness with a simple apology http://www.nfl49ersfansclub.com/Black-F … ck-Jersey/ , or somehow made things worse, step two may be your only hope for salvation. What is step two? The oh-so-important art of giving the "I'm Sorry" Gift. And because you don't know whether the apology is going to work or not, you better come more prepared for Step 2 than a dump truck full of boy scouts and cloned McGuivers. Different levels of botch-jobs require different levels of gifts. Confucius once commented on the art of I'm Sorry Gift Giving to which he stated "Do not use a cannon to kill a mosquito." Actually, I made the gift giving part up, but he did say it and it never the less applies to your dilemma. If you made a small mistake don't go buying Volvo's and planning magical mystery tours around the world. This will only suggest that you're trying to flat out buy her forgiveness with a Godfather style offer she can't refuse. It could also suggest that you've done something way worse that you're trying to conceal. On the other hand, you don't want to plug the dam with a piece of chewing gum. If you've utterly disgraced yourself, you don't want to come knocking at your partner's door with a pack of Necco Wafers and a sack of used trinkets. To help you avoid embarrassing yourself further by giving a horrible inappropriate gift, here's a time tested flowchart to help you get back into good graces (before we move on...Step 1: I have no idea what a flowchart is and...sniff sniff.....I'm sorry if I caused any confusion). Let's not use the word "flowchart" and break it down by the degree to which you blew it (including a list of common offenses) and the apology gifts that correspond appropriately. You can take this information to the bank; just don't hit on the teller. Defcon 1 - This is the least severe level to be at http://www.nfl49ersfansclub.com/Black-F … de-Jersey/ , but at the same time you don't want the virus to spread. You'll know you're at this level if there's excessive pouting andor more than a few snide remarks aimed in your direction. Some offenses associated with this level may include neglecting your household duties, forgetting to call and check in, persistent nagging, or a minor loss of one's temper. If you're at this point, a simple apology will most likely bring things back to an even keel. A very small gift such as a card is also appropriate, but a kind gesture will most likely give you more mileage. Defcon 2 - This level is a bit more serious. 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